Thursday

A Sister For Katie

Growing up is tough, we’ll all agree to that. For some it’s tougher than others. Without getting to heavy, or calling out the little violins to soon. I will just say growing up for me was in deed tough.  I grew up far too fast and skipped over the “being a kid” part completely. 

I was raised in a very strict household. Children were to be seen and not heard, etc. Only A’s were allowed and extracurricular activities had to be academically valued. Being the eldest I carried a lot of responsibilities (along with stress) and actually developed my first ulcer at a very early age (another story perhaps for another day). My younger brother is several years my junior and we lacked that wonderful sibling connection so many share growing up. No matter how hard I tried over the years we never connected. We are two people, so very different from one another. Every time I have extended my love and support it has always been rejected (do I hear violins yet?)

 I used to envy the sibling connections I’d see in my friend’s families. I used to spend a lot of time alone. I often wrote in my diary about how nice it would be to have a sister to confide in. Someone closer to my age, someone to lean on, and share confidences with. I always had very strong friendships and a diverse group of friends. But, there still was no substitute for the sister I had always wanted. 

A recent announcement on the Oprah Winfrey show regarding the discovery of her half-sister brought forward something I never thought I’d write a blog about…….

 I too have a sister! I learned of her and met her for the very first time in 1999!  She is beautiful, talented, successful, and artistic.  She spent her whole life thinking she was an only child. Although we found each other late in our lives we now have the sister we had both wished for. We haven’t seen each other since 1999. But, we stay connected through emails, letters and facebook!
You see, she lives in Tokyo! …………………………… 

You may wonder why I have a photo of  Blythe dolls on this post. My big sister’s company created Blythe.  My sister is an extraordinary woman. She has many successful ventures and is also a hula teacher. I am proud to know her and to love her and to call her my sister.




28 comments:

Odie Langley said...

Katie, as I got into your blog today I got the feeling that you really needed a hug. I do hope with the benefits of modern technology you two can see each other at least by way of computer cameras. Be sure and let her know that I think the dolls are beautiful and I really mean that. Their expressions are gorgious. You might now have had a close family growing up but I do hope you feel the closeness of our blog family. Have a blessed day.
Odie

PoetessWug said...

Oh Katie, I saw that Oprah show too! I was sitting and crying about it because I also have siblings...yes, more than one...that I have never met! I have 5! My biological father never told them about me, and then he died. :-( I found them, but they don't appear to want to have a relationship with me. The only one I converse with occasionally is his widow. She sent me pictured of the family...and of my father. You see, I never met him either. He disappeared back to his life after he found out about my birth. So, talk about rejection!! So, I feel your pain, and I say if your sister is willing, do everything you can to build a relationship with her...Thankfully I know I'm pretty fabulous! ^_^ So if they don't come around, I'll still love them all anyway, and their not getting to know me will be their loss! :-]

Formerly known as Frau said...

How wonderful....I have four sisters and with that is a lot of headaches and drama but also a lot of love and laughter. Some times you don't appreciate them until your an adult. So exciting to have a talented sister I hope you made up for loss time.

welcome to my world of poetry said...

What a wonderful blog, it brought a few tears in my eyes. I am so pleased you found your sister.

Yvonne.

Queen Bee's Musings said...

Life journeys lead to much and create us to become...
A sister to share is a wonderful life journey. So very happy you have connected with yours! I have 3 sisters and they have added much to my life.

Heather said...

Thanks for sharing this story with us. It was quite touching.

Jennifer said...

How very cool you found your sister!...I like you grew up too quickly and lived in a very strict house...w 5 kids there was always someone around but my sis is 5 yrs younger so we werent close..it is neat to have a relationship w her now since we both know our family dynamics and it is neat to see it from someone else's eyes. Oprah has come thru a lot...it is good to see her nieces doing so well and her half sister, it spite of being raised in foster care.
I thought it so interesting that no one mentioned who Patty's (the new one)father was...either Oprah's Mom didnt know or she didnt say...also the man that raised Oprah Mr. Winfrey, does not appear to be her birth father. I think every family has secrets...kinda refreshing to bring light to them! thanks for sharing...

ethelmaepotter! said...

Wow! How amazing that you found out you have a sister, found her, MET her, keep in touch with her halfway round the world...and she's a very successful woman!

I am impressed!

Johnnie said...

Awwwww! That is very sweet. Your sister is a lucky gal to have you. Thanks for stopping by today. I am following you now. Blessings...

Johnnie

Saved By Love Creations

Dee said...

I had a tough childhood also. I had eight sibling but grew up as an only child. My dad was married four times. Things were crazy but in my neighborhood most of the kids came from dysfunctional homes.A lot of us formed close friendships and still keep contact with each other after all these years.I am happy you found your sister. I find that in bad things there will always be some good.I learned early to not look at any weakness I may have adopted from my child hood but appreciate the strength's I would not have if I had not been born into my wonky little family and I think you are able to do the same thing. Thank you for sharing with us..I know it is not always an easy thing to do.

The Girl from Cherry Blossom Street said...

how wonderful! i'm sure the both you of have enriched each other's lives!

Tiffany said...

Thank you for stopping by and saying hello over at Killing Time.
Your story about your sister is amazing, especially since you didn't have that as a child. I hope your relationship continues to grow and you become even closer!

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Real Life In A Minute said...

How fortunate to find your sister. I'd be lost without mine. I can't imagine finding, now, as an adult that I have another sibling. Anything's possible though. Following from Thurs Blog Hop

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Lin said...

Wow. That's a deep post today. I'm sorry to hear of your childhood--that is rough. Reminds me of that new book---what's the name..."Tiger Mom" or something. Life is too short to be so dang strict. I'm glad I have fun with my kids.

Hope you can enjoy a friendship with your sister. That would be a nice surprise, wouldn't it?

Brooke Douglass said...

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Tatter Beans said...

wow that is an awesome story .... Im so glad you where able to meet ....
I don't see my siblings .. I moved from the UK to the States 3 yrs ago..but we also keep in touch via the internet and phone calls.
Hope you have a blessed week
Hopped over from The Elephants Trunk

Kat said...

How cool that you found each other and are able to stay in touch. I hope you're able to one day spend more time together.

Hugs,
Kat

Karen said...

You are so blessed to have found that sister. My sister and I are estranged and it is so unfortunate and sad. It's none of my doing. What a waste! Thank goodness for my two sweet brothers.
have a blessed week!
Karen
Ladybug Creek

Donna said...

Katberine...that was just THE most touching post EVER!! I had chills reading it because I was brought up the very same way you were. my dad was severe in the way he treated us and there was much competetion beetween us. I, too, had little love of my sisters...until my mother (whom I loved very much) died. The one sister and I became extremely close almost taking our mother's place.
When I read that you found a sister, I was amazed...and so happy for you!! Almost like a huge gift God was saving for you! Wonderful!! Hugs...Donna

caterpillar said...

Hi Katie...I could empathize when you wrote about being the eldest with a lot of responsibilities because I'm the eldest too...it's great to know that you found your sister...having a sister is always so nice....thanks for coming over to my blog...:)

Sue@Uniquely Chic said...

Wow, that is one bittersweet story. I saw that Oprah episode and it was so touching. I'm so glad for you that you found your sister. There really is nothing like a sibling bond as long as it is a good one. Too bad about your brother but ya never know what the future holds~Sue

MusingMom6 said...

It has been difficult for me to understand why there is so much "dis-connectedness" in families. It has been that way since the beginning, though. I put a lot of effort into creating togetherness at some level with my kids. They don't have to like everything, but find something to like about each other.

Your story is a gift, God knew how much you wanted/needed a sister.